I was ten when my younger brother was born. He was born prematurely - at six months. Believe an angel visited my mother to warn her that the birth came. The child was stillborn. My mother prayed and he began to live. After a month or two in the greenhouse he could come home and from day one I was involved with his care. Initially it was interesting. I was proud that I could make his bottles, I could fold the diapers that I could werpseltjie care. But what was once a novelty tree braids for a child, has quickly become tree braids a great responsibility to become. Our mother tree braids was 45 when the new born; in the prime of her life and a successful business woman with five businesses, three pawn shops, a video store and a hair salon. In addition, partnerships in other businesses: a supermarket, a cafe, a vrugtesapfabriek, and probably other fingers in other pies which I did not knew it. Caring for a baby did not fit into her routine - especially not during business hours. While I was at school, the servants (we had two, because we could afford it), the laatlammetjie care. But in the afternoon, shortly after I got home, it was my responsibility until the business woman finally came home - six, seven o'clock, eight o'clock - and moedersrol could take over. Make bottle, nappy change, and struggling with a screaming baby was no longer a nutigheid, but a terrible punishment. Who know a ten year old infant who tandesny off? I remember well how I had on more than one occasion cough medicine fed to him sedated to sleep. I remember many times yourself in tears because tree braids I was helpless to stop screaming baby to get. How I at once the baby ripped out of frustration. It's irresponsible of parents of a child expected to be a different child to see. How can a child older games? How can parents as child-onnosil be. The damage is irreversible. I do not like children. I'm in my thirties, and to this day no need to have children of my own to have. I have no illusions about raising children is not. Most young people getting married and having children have no idea what it entails. I constantly see how children (early tree braids twenties) have children and all I can do is shake my head. Children is not child's play. Since I was ten years old, I had gedeeeltelik the role of a parent fulfilled. Ten years later, two days before my 21th birthday and a month before his 11th birthday, my father during an armed robbery in the head. A few months later, my mother died of a stroke range attacks. My role as "parent" has never stopped. Though I have not to my little brother looked in his physical needs (another brother that burden borne), tree braids his emotional needs still my responsibility. In my personal opinion, it was a much greater responsibility than to his physical needs to see - especially while I myself emotionally tree braids hard hit, without father or mother to my physical and emotional needs to see. It's already ten years later. I was 31 - he's 21 Gradually the gap becomes smaller and we are becoming friends, as he becomes more independent. Yet it remains inevitable - I'm tree braids still the "older" - if only the older brother. tree braids Damage, possibly irrevocably, I shy away from any emotional dependents, further parental responsibility. And I started to make peace with the likelihood that I will never marry and have children. But perhaps he will one day marry and have children. tree braids And I'll be ... uncle and grandfather.
Wow! How scary that must have you been! It's unfortunate that you feel this way about children. - And your mother (parents) ... children are special and they change a person's outlook on life completely. tree braids If both parents do their bit, raising children is not so bad. I hope something happens to change your view. 27 December 2009 18:17
I doubt that children are one's outlook on life changed. Last year I was in relationship. My X has a toddler son and the relationship was serious enough that I was willing vadersrol in the act. Unfortunately, the relationship did not work out. However, experience has shown me that I am not totally against the possibility of children. Never say never ... If I have one day a loved one that fits my pace (by no means an easy proposition!), And she would very much like to have children, I will not dissuade tree braids her not. Yet I would rather a child to adopt as one of my own. 29 December 2009 03:19
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